another happy birthday post

Apparently it takes a lot for me to post on this blog of mine. Not only must I have a strong feelings about a particular subject, but I also need the patience to write, and I need extra time to justify posting vs. the many other things I should, could, or would be doing right now. Most importantly, I should feel that the subject is worthwhile and may have some type of impact for good (many subjects I feel strongly about but don’t necessarily translate to useful information or motivation blog posts). Today is a lucky day because the stars are aligning and all three of the above criteria are met.

Another thing you might have noticed if you are actually a consistent reader on this blog, is that I love talking about other people. Today is no exception. I dedicate this post to one of my newest greatest friends: Jarilyn Cox. I say newest because I didn’t know Jar pre-MPA program and it still kind of shocks me that really great friends can be developed past the 7th grade. Is not the phrase ‘BFF’ only reserved for those who you grew up with? Thank goodness it’s not because I sometimes surprise myself at the number of people I call my best friend. I think we’re up to at least 37 now. Roughly.

No really though, Jarilyn is definitely one of my best friends. Let me list (who doesn’t like a good list?) a few reasons why:

1. Jar is up for anything anytime. She makes things happen. You want to go to London, England or Vernal, UT? She’ll have it organized in a day and a 1/2. You want to go hiking or to disneyland for the weekend? She’ll have the sandwich’s ready and plans made within 20 minutes. She decided to go to Paraguay for the whole summer, made the decision within a day or two, and never looked back once. It’s quite amazing to watch for indecisive people like myself. This girl is a mover and a shaker.

2. Jarilyn loves sports. Oh man. I don’t know very many females that play Volleyball, Tennis, Racquetball and Ultimate Frisbee all in one day. Nothing can come in the way of her playing time. She loves byu sports and we’ve been regular attenders over the last year. She has also been the best racquetball partner I’ve ever had. So much fun.

3. Jarilyn is so much fun to be around. She uses hyperboles almost every other sentence. It makes things REALLY exciting. Everything is all of a sudden 7 billion hours long, or 6 million people were there. Her facial expressions add to the excitement. You can’t help but laugh and smile when Jarilyn is around.

4. She is SOOO easy to make fun of. From technology to dating, Jarilyn is an easy target. Unfortunately, I totally took advantage of this throughout the year. What ever you do Jar will NEVER switch to gmail (and she probably won’t even read this blog). We had a gazillion great laughs about it though, right Jar?

5. Finally, Jar is incredibly consistent. When it comes to friendship, this is the best attribute. Jar is so willing to help, to listen, and to just share your burden. She likes what she likes and is not at all swayed by the whims of trends or others opinions. When Jarilyn commits – she’s 110% committed.

If you can’t tell, I really love this girl and already miss spending 15 hours a day together. Happy Birthday Jar!


What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?

my relationships with others are the most important part of my life.

i’d like to comment on the essential need and desire to have good friends in our lives. Not just good friends, but friends who listen, who care, who lift us and push us to greater heights. Friends who know when to let you cry, know how to make you laugh, and who know when to just sit and and let you think for awhile. Basically just friends who love and show that love.

I have such a friend. In fact, I have many of these friends. But the one whom I spend the most time with recently has been my dear roommate Catherine. Any who know this friend of mine will quickly agree how fun and witty and intelligent catherine is. While she is most certainly ALL these things (and many more), I’d like to point out some lesser known attributes of catherine. Here are five inherent qualities and reasons why I’m so grateful this gal has become one of my very closest friends:

#1: genuine
cath does not guard or second guess what she thinks or feels. her actions and words are genuine displays of her feelings.

#2: dedication and devotion
i don’t know many people that feel such a deep commitment and devotion to her beliefs and values. this is the mark of a true friend.

#3: real companionship
catherine spends her time developing real friendships. ANY situation is much more entertaining and meaningful if catherine is with me. as we’ve become better friends, it’s been a beautiful thing to watch how sensitive she is to my feelings, my needs, and my desires. everyday she, unknowingly, pushes me to become a better person.

#4: spontaneous desires and actions
as a dedicated (and obsessive) planner, i’ve grown to love her uninhibited and impromptu desires and ideas. cath is fun. so much fun.

#5: love of beautiful things
catherine is attracted to beauty of all kinds and is constantly inspiring me to immerse myself in nature, music, and great literature. by constantly immersing herself in what she is drawn to, she encourages others to “seek after these things”.

my new quest is to be this type of friend in every relationship throughout my life.